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Wrong but not THAT wrong ::
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It's
crazy around here as my two kids starts to grow
their own personalities. Let's delve a little
into their own little personalities, shall we?
Let's start with Joshua, the melancholic.
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Now,
to say the least, Joshua's got multiple personalities
and suffers from massive mood-swings,
like dad. He could be riding high on a wave of happiness
one second and then he would wallowing in a tide of
melancholic depressive state the next. It's amazing
cause he's not even FEMALE, you get what
I mean? It's like he is so unpredictable that he should
be wearing a mood-tag around his neck saying "Don't
come near me" or "Play with me"
to indicate the state of his mind at that precise point.
I reckon that he would have to get himself a girlfriend
like me whose always silly and happy for no apparent
reason. It's like, "What're you so happy about?"
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My
standard reply would be "Well, I just
washed all my clothes and my hands are peeling
and my muscles are all cramped and I feel great
cause I finally got all my underwear to a 'wearable'
state"
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Jared,
on the other hand, is like me. He's happy and sad for
no apparent reason too. Mostly happy for no reason,
really. His brother would be all grouchy and ghastly
and Jared would be singing 'Head and shoulder, knees
and toes" for the thousandth time and this can
get on anyone's nerves, the truth be told. But I am
happy that he's happy most of the time because I cannot
imagine caring for two grouch-infested souls at the
same time and work from home too. I would be in cuckoo-land
faster than you can say…well, cuckoo.
Now,
the little one likes buttons. If he has a principle
to life, it's gotta be "If there's a button
on that thing, it's meant to be pressed".
And press it, he does. He switches my computer on
for me, when I don't intend to use it. He makes anonymous
phone calls for me on my mobile phone. He and
closes the CD player whenever he can. He locks the
door behind himself all the time. He rewinds and fast-forwards
cassette players like his life depended on it.
Joshua
knows that pushing the CD player's tray in and out is
the wrong thing to do and he insists that if it's wrong
for him to do it (as we always tell him not to do that),
it's wrong for Jared to do it too. So, he would don
the big-brother suit when Jared starts 'pushing all
the wrong buttons'. He would walk over authoritatively
to Jared and give him a shove and say, "No,
Jared cannot press the button".
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For
Jared, although he's a generally happy baby, he
doesn't like being bossed around either. He thinks
he's got the right to do whatever he wanted when
he wanted to do it and however he wished to do it.
So, he, in turn, shoves Joshua back in return. |
This
pushing and shoving can get to anyone, let me tell you
this. Especially a mother who's tight for time and running
low on tolerance.
So,
who's wrong and who's right? Ok, so, Joshua is wrong
to push his brother even if he was doing it because
he thinks it was right. Jared was wrong to push the
buttons to begin with but then he pushed back because
he didn't like being pushed in the first place. Joshua
thought he was doing something he thought was right.
Jared was also the same, he pushed back because the
method Josh employed was wrong.
I
walk up to them and say 'no fighting' but it doesn't
put things into perspective, does it? I mean to Joshua,
he would be thinking "He's the one who started
it. I told him not to push all the buttons on the CD
player, just like mommy used to tell me" and Jared
would be thinking, "He's the one who started it,
he pushed me first".
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Joshua
is only 3 ½ years and Jared is only 1 ½,
can you imagine what the fights would be like when
they're a little older?
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Sure,
they love each other dearly and it would bring tears
to my eyes to watch them hug and kiss each other when
they feel like it. But boy oh boy, how I wish those
fights would turn into kiss and makeup mode sooner than
it usually is. Would it actually make a difference if
they were both girls? Erm, actually, I don't think so
because the only difference would be that they would
shout, "Mommeeeeeeee!" sooner
or burst into a forlorn tearful crying match.
Only
thing is, with these two boys, I would be the one shouting
and crying, "Mmmmoooooommmmmm! Look at Joshua
and Jared! They're fighting again!"
:: Marsha ::
